Letting the days go by


Do not ever let people tell you that you do not have time to do something. I hear people all the time saying, “If I had more time I would do … (insert something to do here)”

I know- I have found myself saying that exact phrase. In fact, I am sure we all have said it at least once, maybe twice or even an hundred times. I found myself saying it earlier today and I get frustrated when I find myself saying it, because I do not want to use that phrase as an excuse for not doing something. It can become so easy to write the things off with that simple phrase. We only have a short time in this world to spend with our loved ones, seeing the world and meeting new people and there is ALWAYS time for those important things that make our lives so much better.

So in the interests of the old saying, ‘…Take time to smell the flowers’ – I will share with you my past seven days of making time to do…

It was Sunday, April 6th – Mylie and I woke up early and packed up for the day to take a road trip. Our first stop was at Trader Joe’s. I will not go into details about Trader Joe’s because if you have been reading Psychosomatic Rants you already know how I feel about this place.

Our second stop was at the Williamsburg Winery – This was my first time ever to visit a winery. I am not a huge wine fan, well; I really dislike the taste of wine. I went in hopes to see if the wine I had that was not good or if I really do not like wine. We arrived at the winery, it was cold, cloudy and rainy – a perfect day.

From the Williamsburg Winery website;

The tour includes a video presentation on grape growing (viticulture) and winemaking (oenology), a stroll through the barrel cellar and a visit to the production area.
In our museum you will enjoy a collection of unique and rare vintage wine bottles with a grand finale tasting of seven of our wines in an etched wine glass that is yours to take home as a keepsake

Before I go on, it must be noted that you can NOT put Mylie and me in a room with a video presentation. We both find these videos beyond hilarious. To add the odd and very funny videos that tours create is the fact that not everyone who is on the tour with us finds the humor in these videos so out of respect we try to keep our comments and laughter to ourselves. That is very hard for Mylie because she tried to hold in her laughter – her face turning bright red – tears falling from her eyes – her body begins to bounce do to the force of her holding in her laughter. Then as I try not to laugh at her laughing, a clip of the ‘wine master’ comes on the screen. This person’s face was flushed – with rosy cheeks and he begins talking about the art of wine making. It is clear that this wine master is totally drunk in this video. So my laughter kicks in and so here we are Mylie and me in a room of people who think drinking wine is a upper society and very proper both of us trying to hold in our laughter with Mylie making squeaky sounds in-between her laughter that, I think is her saying, “Stop, I cant take it anymore, stop!’

The twelve-minute video is now over, the tour guide enters into the room, and that ends our video presentation of the tour. Now on to the wine making….

At the end of the tour, we had the privilege of tasting seven different wines. It is important to note here – Mylie and I left our house around early morning and at 2:30pm, we started the tour – we had not eaten anything all day. No breakfast, no lunch, we had a couple handful of popcorn and Mylie had some coffee.

So on with the story – The tour guide poured us the first glass of wine while giving us the history of that wine. Then came the second glass, then the third, and then I noticed that Mylie was starting to get a buzz going – I looked at her and she had this HUGE smile on her face and as she looked at me she said, “This is good!” with a little giggle in her voice. I started to laugh and said, ‘You are drunk’ She said, ‘No, I am not – but we can’t drive once we are done here.’ We reached our seventh glass of wine in a fifteen-minute span and we were feeling pretty good. – I found out that I still do not like wine -but the desert wine is pretty good.


Then we went on to Richmond, VA to eat at Panda Veg – All I need to say here is ALL YOU CAN EAT VEGAN BUFFET!


Fast forward a couple days later….

I found myself hanging out at horse sanctuaries – way out in the middle of nowhere. (I am sure it is somewhere for the people who live there)

I spent the rest of the week grooming horses and learning about their individual stories. Some were rescued from horse tracks, from PMU farms, carriage horses, and from slaughter.

Spending time at these horse sanctuaries was amazing. I learned so much about these wonderful animals and how horrible the horse ‘industry’ can be – for example, the horse drawn carriages in NYC are sold to slaughter instead of being retired after a life of hard and miserable lives pulling people through the crowded streets of NYC.

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Now it is 11:25pm on Saturday April 12, 2008 and I am standing looking out my window at the city below and asking myself – “What will I make time for, tomorrow?”


  • Karen1

    May 14, 2008

    NYC carriage horses do go to slaughter. I have been to NEW HOLLAND, PA. I have seen the drivers bring their worn out horses there, and sell them for slaughter. then they turn around and buy new horses to bring back to NYC. I know the truth i have seen it.

  • Julie2

    May 7, 2008

    This is a great blog! Loved this post. The cruel and heartless “Horselover” is spouting the same party line here as on every other blog. (Hmmm..could this be Colin? Carolyn? Anita?) What a bunch of lies. The horses have miserable lives and miserable deaths. Even thoroughbred race horses are sent to inhumane slaughter. Don’t you think these poor old horses are, too? Most areold when they are sold into this modern-day slavery, and they are worn out and sent to slaughter when they are no longer deemed “profitable.”

    “Unexplained deaths and grim conditions” is how equine expert Holly Cheever, DVM, put it recently. “The best that can be said of New York’s operating conditions is that they may be survivable–barely–but they are never humane,” Dr. Cheever wrote a few months ago. She added that NYC’s carriage-horse industry is “by far the worst” she has ever seen. And she is a primary equine adviser to 18 municipalities, including New York.

  • moo3

    April 17, 2008

    It’s hard to remember we’re alive for the first time

    …were alive for the last time

    It’s hard to remember to live before you die

    …that our lives are such a short time

    It’s hard to remember when it takes such a long time

    It’s hard to remember


  • Bayless_4

    April 13, 2008

    According to a NYC comptroller’s audit, which found a litany of problems in the carriage industry, from lax veterinary care to infrequent inspections.

    The audit also found that the horses were not provided with enough water, were at risk of overheating on hot asphalt and were forced to stand in their own waste because of inadequate drainage.

    Vets even say that ‘Lameness and hoof deterioration are inevitable when a horse spends its life walking or jogging on the unnaturally concussive asphalt of city streets’

    I don’t see how a horse who is living in the wild would ever want to be deprived of water, grass, shade and grazing.

    But being deprived of everything that comes natural to these horses are due to the fact that the interests of the horses are never taken into consideration by the ‘business’ owners. This type of attitude shows very strongly when you said, “…who would gladly trade their life for that of a NYC carriage horse.” while referring to horses that are living in a more natural setting such as an open grassy fields.
    I hope that you don’t really believe that horses in the ‘wild’ would “gladly trade their life for to be a NYC carriage horse.”

    If so then where are your ‘retired’ horses? I ask only out of concern for your horses.

    —additional problems that NYC carriage horses face that horses in fields do not:

    July 4, 2007 – A carriage horse spooks on Central Park South and collides with a taxi. The 12 year old horse named Bud suffered several gashes on his rear legs. The cabby is hospitalized. A motorcyclist and his bike are hit with the carriage.

    June 2, 2007 – Accident on Seventh Avenue and 56th Street – A young horse spooks on Seventh Avenue and 56th St. and gallops into traffic still attached to his carriage. At 54th St., he is hit by an SUV and falls to the pavement.

    April 13, 2007 – Accident on Central Park South at Grand Army Plaza – A taxi crashed into a carriage

    5 May, 2006 – Wild West Side Horse Crash – a carriage horse from Shamrock Stable got spooked by loud traffic noises at 46th and 11th Ave., ran wild and crashed into a car while still attached to his cab, which fell on its side

  • Horselover5

    April 13, 2008

    All that Tofurkey is must be turning your brain to mush.
    NYC carriage horses do not have miserable lives, and are not sold to slaughter. I should know, I have been in the business for 26 years and currently am paying for the retirement on two of our horses.
    While they are in the city working, they have superior housing, food, treats, grooming, vet & farrier care, not to mention the love & attention of their drivers & passerby. Many’s the country horse – left to stand in forgotten in muddy fields, ungroomed, with the occasional bale of hay tossed at them – who would gladly trade their life for that of a NYC carriage horse. Hell, the tragic truth is that there are CHILDREN in this town who don’t have what my horse has.
    Wake up & grow up.


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